You may feel I am so silly to write this, But there are many occasions in my life where people asked me how am I maintaining a cordial relationship with everyone. People told me many times that, they have never seen me angry for anything. I feel privileged at times to think about this. Kindly note I ain't boasting. My mantra is very simple and they are...
- Talk polite and less and listen more
Most of the times, Listening ears and more needed than the advising tongues. Nowadays world is changing so fast that everyone is ready to give an advice but no one is ready listen the victim. Try to speak polite on the topic than talking about self or advising. Always mind what you are talking. Smile and frown are in the power of the tongue, those who love will eat its fruits.
- Never be sharp or straight forward
Avoid being sharp or snappy in retorting. Being straight forward never allows you to have a long relationship. At times, diplomatic answers are needed. Learn to give respect and understand others emotions. Never hurt anyone with attitude.
- Respect everyone and be where you are respected
If anyone thinks they are unique or having the qualities which others aren't having, They have the rights to expect the respect wherever they go. People may praise others if they are rich or in power but the respect comes only with the deeds. I feel people who deserve respect should be in the place where they are respected. If you do not get respect, shake the dust off and move away. You can not expect everyone to respect you, but you can choose the people to be associated with.
- Think from other's point of view
This is one of the common mistake we do unknowingly and easily. If you’re with a friend who’s eating in high end restaurant for the first time, empathize with that person instead of laughing while watching them fight with a knife and fork. Talk about the first time you used knife and fork and how it ended up falling off your table. When you make someone feel better, they’ll be grateful to you and like you more.
- Keeping a smiling/warm face
Keep smiling and make them smile along with you! Even If you say a bitter truth, just make sure that opponent smiles after your words, else they will hate you. Keeping a smiling face is just an important sign that 'I have no issues in being your friend', if you are OK with me. I feel I am a receptive magnet when I do. Keep a warm face to everyone, then it will the character. There are some negative side on having this character, but trust me this will definitely makes a difference.
Everyone born as a saint, but the society will not allow them to remain the same. But at one point of time we learn what is good and bad. If anyone is so strong enough to follow their instincts, they are unique. Our own conscience is the best judge to differentiate the good and bad. You can attract the people in many ways, but earning a place for your trustworthy in their minds is not so easy. If you find you are having a good quality which may even be silly, never compromise for anything.
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